Sexual desire and sexual attraction… two sides to the same coin.
Today’s video answers a question from a reader who wants to know if it’s okay to show his sexual desire on a date…
I get this question all the time from both men and women who feel that the opposite sex will be less attracted to them if they show their sexual desire too early… but get frustrated when they get put in the “friend zone” when they aren’t clear about their interest in a sexual relationship.
There is actually only one authentic path here, and it is always the most attractive too? If you want your dates to turn into romance, sexual fun, and the kind of REAL interactions that lead to satisfying and passionate relationships… watch this now:
I’d love hear your comments below. I might not be answering all of them this week because I’m off to Burning Man in 2 days!
If you’re going to be at the event this year, I’ll be doing a few talks and workshops on sex at Camp Mystic.
Also note that between B.M. and my wedding coming up in a few weeks, I’m taking a few weeks off on the video production. The good news is that Breaking Bad is back while I’m gone 😉
Leave comments and questions below and I’ll do my best to answer when I can!
-A
Goddamn… Best video of 2013.
Alex, I’m curious, where do you get your wisdomfrom? Do you just talk a lot with different men and women? Did you have a lot of life experiences on the matter? I’m curious to what you see as your most important sources of insight!
Hi Alex,
Thank you so much for all the videos.. Too bad my husband doesn’t get any of it 🙁
I want to wish you a wonderful wedding, full of respect, communication, love, friendship, trust, and of course, sex 🙂
Congratulations !
Awesome stuff as usual, Alex. Thanks.
Wanted to make a point to emphasize YOUR point about hiding your sexuality for fear of appearing creepy or aggressive.
I work with guys on developing the sense of confidence and competence (which you address elsewhere beautifully) required to express their sexuality without emitting needy or desperate energy.
A single or married man who is trying to exert his sexuality and hoping to attract will fail every time if their underlying energy is “I NEEEEEED sex” or “I can hardly hold a conversation because I’m DESPERATE for sex” or “It’s been SOOOO long since you’ve GIVEN me sex”.
This energy can be smelled a mile away by most mature women. It’ll shut a guy down instantly.
And, most importantly, it’s a shitty way to live your life as a man. Gotta lose the neediness.
Thanks again for your super high-quality stuff. The value you throw out each day is incredible. A recent client of mine called you a freakin’ genious after his first post-divorce date. I had him buy your audio files.
So, there you go, genious. ;^)
Thanks for the video response, Alex!
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