I’ve talked in the past about “cheat-proofing” a woman: Being so good in the bedroom that afterwards a woman won’t want to ever be with another man.
But what if you are having sex with a casual partner that you don’t intend to stay with long term?
Is it possible that you can ruin her life by setting the bar so high that she’ll never be happy with another man?
Watch this video to learn more about what I believe actually is an important issue of sexual mastery…
Alex this is a little disappointing!
As a woman who did get addicted to a man who was amazing in bed, but who had no emotional ethics towards the women he had sex with and in fact later declared himself to be a sex addict, I must point out that you didn’t answer your own question.
So I will. Yes, it is possible to be so good in bed that a woman falls for you very quickly. Is it responsible to allow deep heart centered sex with a woman you are going to (or might, you don’t know yet) dispose of easily?
Is it more ethical to have a great time in bed with a casual lover, and reserve the deep heart centered stuff for someone you truly love? or are women still a version of target practice for you? upmarket target practice perhaps, if you follow the emotional principles outlines in Alex’s book…..still target practice.
Most men cannot appreciate how profoundly deep sexuality is for women emotionally. Different parts of the brain are involved; women cannot avoid the emotional impact of sex. We are much more vulnerable in a casual situation than a man is….so you could encourage men to take better care of their casual lovers. I am disappointed in you Alex, that you raise such an important question, then leave it unanswered in a pitch for your book. This omission does both genders a disservice.
Thank you Rosie. In all of these videos I am constantly weighing how much to put in against keeping them short. My editor keeps telling me to keep them to 3 minutes, and I’m just one of those people who tend to yammer on and on… and in this case, I feel I should have put more “how to” into the video.
Obviously one way to do this is to “hold back” and reserve the possibilities of connection, intimacy, and emotional content.
The problem with doing this is that it makes the man responsible for protecting the woman’s feelings, rather than trusting to her to be self-responsible.
With the strong, and I hope obvious foundation of truth, I think that a great lover can give the higher gift of trusting a woman, of seeing her greatness, and of demonstrating deep belief in her as a woman… while being open about the fact that while he may share deep emotion with her, emotional commitment is not on his radar.
With eyes open the end/completion of the relationship will still be painful. But pain is a valid part of the human journey. And I believe that it can also leave both lovers better off for having experienced each other, and better able to fully love in their next relationship.
At it’s best, this is a messy and complicated issue… like everything else about living fully as a human… And I got it wrong plenty of times in my past. I’m not sure what compelled me to make this particular video… I really just shoot whatever is on my mind, but I do think it’s an important issue for a man to deeply consider if he’s going to be on this journey.
once again fabulous! alex
This sounds great in theory, but my gut feeling after hearing this is: “Satisfying women” is just too much work, not to mention the consistent feeling of pressure from her then having higher expectations thereafter. Usually not worth it, even before factoring in the shit-tests and drama always brought into the mix by women too. This is why I date so infrequently overall. I guess I just don’t find as much of a thrill in it all as you do, Alex. With my limited resources of time, energy, money, etc…Rare to find a lady that makes my overall quality of life actually better, instead of just more effort.
Hey Perry, everyone is on their own path, and maybe the best choice for you is, as you say, not to date. It’s your life, your decision, and that is a viable course of action.
However, my deep belief (after many years of very focused study and the benefit of incredibly wise teachers), is that in this short lifetime, you will arrive at the end with the deepest level of satisfaction if you expend a lot more of those “limited resources of time, energy, money, etc.” on the self-exploration of why you are having this experience of women.
Your experience is “having to satisfy” and “drama” and “shit tests”.
My experience, and the experience of the men with whom I’m close friends, is exactly the opposite. I make no effort at “satisfying women,” but rather place my effort on “sharing mutual pleasure and intimacy” with women. It is not “too much work” to be with women, but rather “my favorite play time”. And I can’t remember the last time I got a “shit test” because I’m open to hear the truth when a woman I am intimate with gives me an honest reflection.
Of course, I’m married now, and I can’t even begin to measure how much better the quality of my life is with my wife than it was without her, and it certainly much less effort.
Now why are my friends and I having a completely different experience with women than you are?
Is it just that we have all be incredibly lucky in meeting amazing women, and you have been incredibly unlucky in meeting a bunch of hard-to-satisfy drama-queens?
Maybe.
But I think the most obvious thing that all those women had in common was you.
And I deeply believe that if you allowed yourself the possibility of changing a few of your beliefs, you would remake your life in a way that would bring you intense happiness and a deeper understanding of what is available for you to experience as a human, and as a man.
Begin with this: What if women actually found it unpleasant when a man put too much effort into “satisfying” them? What if women didn’t want your hard work, but rather your joyful play?
Alex,
You are right, as you usually are. I had some insights today that may help some of your other readers feeling similar to me:
Regardless of one’s beliefs about the sex being “play” or not, what are the chances that a guy in an already exhausted bad place (or places) can muster the strength, resources, and interpersonal impact to actually be the BEST a lady has had sexually? Tough. And if he somehow does once, what are the chances that he can maintain that time after time? That’s the unlikelihood, and subsequent pressure, that I was referring to originally. Like Johnny Depp in “Don Juan” where he is secretly snuck in to sexually fulfill the queen yet again, but just collapses asleep instead.
The more I read ALL these online dating/relationship/sexual/business/etc blogs, the more I think that there is a certain baseline/minimum “success”-level that one’s life (the system of passionate work, health, wealth, relationships [pals & gals], etc) must be at overall. The blog advice either synergistically helps build UP his constitution, or exhausts it further DOWN. BELOW a certain life-level, more activity of ANY kind is just too much strain or potential risk on the guy’s overall weak system, and it just weakens it DOWN further. Analogy: A strong, healthy, well-rested guy will pick up an extra 60 lbs of free-weights for a good workout. An already overloaded guy says: “Oh no, not ANOTHER 60 pounds!” You, Alex, are in a good balanced place, thus you and your woman are also a good thing together. Playful workout.
However, for a guy in a tough spot, more activity is just more stress. He’s already exhausted and shouldn’t workout more! There’s just always the HOPE that a good woman/women could help contribute/tip his whole system back UP into the positive upbuilding direction. Especially for a guy who WANTS to be a man that “satisfies” women (a “goal-oriented” guy of sorts, as Ty refers to in his comment)…like me. But, the cards life has dealt me (poor health, childhood baggage, caring for an aged-parent, etc) completely preoccupy me. And it doesn’t seem to contribute positively with women when I add them, for a variety of reasons.
FURTHER, along the lines that Vince brought up, it doesn’t really matter what is agreed upon anyway. Women (humans) will agree all day long that they won’t get attached or whatever, but words are NOT emotions, and more often than not: effectively meaningless after the actions. Thus, like Vince, I’ve broken hearts after agreements too, and that certainly tipped my synergistic system back DOWN into the red negative just in of itself. I’d rather have my own heart broken than break a lady’s heart. But it doesn’t work that way. I wanted to just play each time, and have presupposed positivity contribute to my overall challenged life. But, it became complicated and negatively dramatic. She’d get frustrated, hurt, whatever. I now know that if you REALLY connect with women on any level (sexually, mentally, emotionally, etc) and give them what their soul deeply craves…you are playing with serious fire and things will almost certainly not be ok thereafter when you don’t continue down their preconceived path of “Mr. Right.“ Deviate from that path, and things turn bad, quickly outweighing anything initially positive. intense feelings are still as intense, just redirected in negative directions. Similarly: heroin, coke, crystal meth are probably fun AS you are doing them too, but you’re probably gonna have serious fallout AFTER. Drugs are bad for people who really can’t support the habit to begin with, even if they are our natural internal drugs produced from, say: mind-blowing sex.
PLUS: As a man providing this, I am ultimately playing with the lady’s heart. And if she’s in a place in her life where she “needs” me to release/guide/support/whatever her, then she’s probably NOT the calm/secure/functional lady required to handle that level of emotion.
Your video at 4:10 says that it’s “more about who you are consistently to her…” So, really a guy like me who doesn’t “consistently” provide that masculine safe structure to her, let alone myself, probably shouldn’t even realistically dabble with many of these blog concepts UNTIL the other aspects of my life get much better, so as to safely allow for 1) the excess LUXURY of extra energy/resources for playfulness, AND 2) handling any fallout, frustration, on anyone’s part afterwards. Just like I shouldn’t comment on MENSA, millionaire, or triathlon forums if I don’t even qualify, similarly this whole concept is probably just “not applicable” for me to even comment on. (At least not yet…)
Sorry for the long comment. Obviously you don’t have to approve it to get posted if you don’t want (as moderator). But, I really gave this a lot of thought, and I can’t be the only reader who feels like in this type of predicament though, and hope it helps someone experiencing the same. “Playful” mind-blowing sex seems great, but only after a guy (who really cares about women) gets the rest of his game together first, so he can handle whatever comes of those POWERFUL drug-induced interactions. And the lady ultimately has her game together enough to handle the next level too! What are the odds of all that coming together well? Slim, as far as I have experienced so far. Life is just too tough sometimes.
Hey Perry, thanks for the thought-through contribution. I’ve got a couple of thoughts for you that may help you sort through all of this stuff in a positive way.
Understand that there is no “right” path or “wrong” path for you… there’s just the choices you make and the life that flows from those choices.
Some folks wait to have children until they are “ready,” financially, career/time-wise, emotional stability, until they have a house, a different job, get past that other crisis… and of course, you’ve probably heard the old saying… you’re never ready. There’s no such thing as ready.
In the same way, of course it’s your choice if you think you don’t have the energy to give a woman… but recognize that this is arbitrary. It’s like success. I have friends who make millions of dollars but they’re just not quite feeling successful the way they thought they would, and if they could just get to that NEXT level, THEN they’d feel successful. It’s bullshit, of course.
I don’t know your situation. Maybe you really are drowning right now and can’t afford the bandwidth. But at least recognize that others in your position and worse probably could have plenty of bandwidth, could be comfortable and productive while dealing with incredible difficulty. The difference isn’t that they are mentally tougher than you, but that they have a different frame or a different perspective on what that set of difficulties means in their life.
Maybe you could even recognize the choice in all of this.
I’ve had great relationships in good times and in bad, but only when I made the relationship a priority, and that’s not for everyone… though it is a damn good path to happiness when your focus in life is figuring out how to be open, seen, and loved by other humans, and how to help open, authentically see, and love other humans yourself.
As for harming women when you’ve been open with them about your intentions but they get attached anyway…
I’ve been down that path so many times and tried so many different strategies… from the functional but inauthentic game of “just don’t see them more than once per week,” to the annoying, fight-inducing, daily speech, “I hope you remember that I am not heading for a committed relationship at this time and am open to seeing other people.”
My current perspective, and the most powerful I’ve found so far, is to be open and honest AND to really, truly trust and see that woman as someone who really is capable of being self-responsible for her emotions…. really BELIEVING IN HER.
Will that prevent her from getting attached?
Nope.
But… what you begin to trust is that heart-break and negative emotions are not be avoided at all costs. They are not bad-and-wrong. They are not something you, the powerful man, must protect her from….
In fact, heart-break and hurt are essential parts of life that help us grow, transform, and reach our next level of consciousness and love.
If her heart is broken in the end and she turns mean, just hold to your guns of believing in her. Time will heal the wounds and make her into a better, more capable lover who is ready, finally, for her real soul-mate to show up. You were a powerful and loving step along the way. And that, my friend, is a deep honor.
@ Mr. Sandman: Glad my words benefited you too.
@Alex: I agree with what you are saying, and it’s obvious that you have been down that road for real (i.e. your knowing the daily non-commitment reminder speech doesn’t work and actually pisses the ladies off! Oh man, that’s for sure). So, I’ve reread your reply at least 5 times during different parts of the days so as to let my subconscious really crunch on it. I will also periodically read it in the future (yes, I really do come back to reread posts, just like books or movies.)
For now I’ll leave it at this: I think your comments on trusting the woman to manage herself are very good. Dignity. Who am I to take over HER role in HER life? However, this trust concept is VERY hard for me overall because there’s very few things/people in my life that haven’t screwed me over. Thus, it’s a work-in-progress for me, and at this point I’ve currently resolved to myself that TRUST actually can be broken into two SEPARATE categories, with DIFFERENT approaches:
1) If I want my LIFESTYLE (possessions, business, health, location, home, schedule, etc) a certain way, then the approach is: TRUST NO ONE and MAKE IT HAPPEN MYSELF. Anyone else will just leave me hanging, drop the ball, screw it up, whatever if I leave any of it to them. The more important to me my preference is, the less likely anyone will make it happen for me. Only I know my preferences enough to make them happen. Approach it as 100% MY responsibility (whether it really is 100% or not) and 0% trusting it to OTHERS, and I have the highest chance of getting what I want. There are no partners, only allies at best. Reward comes without or with absolute minimal risk. I accept and like that. (Yes, I realize that “success” still includes relationships like in business or whatever, but I trust that you get what I mean…pun intended.)
2) If I want my RELATIONSHIPS a certain way, then I have no choice but to approach them as being built WITH OTHERS, including all the “risky” aspects of that (i.e. trust.) Yes, pain, regret, loss, emptiness, etc will come with that…as will joy, love, fulfillment, reliance, etc. Reward ONLY comes from risk on the other side of the relationship ‘handshake’. I don’t like that arrangement, but that’s “life” and I accept that.
Lastly, the thing I’d add to your final comment’s suggestion to trust the woman is: from now on, I may choose to only ‘comfortably’ trust women (actually all humans) after I EXPLICITLY TELL THEM that I am doing so, and maybe even ask for their feedback whether I even should. Lay the expectations (heaven forbid) out there for all to see. Some people are honest enough about themselves to say: “NO, don’t trust me to do that. I’ll just forget and let you down!” Or others will say: “Yes, you can trust me. Thank you for believing in me.” Whether or not it changes the EXTERNAL results is doubtful (people pretty much do what they were going to do anyway), and thus kinda irrelevant. However, it changes the amount that I INTERNALIZE it afterwards if/when things go bad/dramatic/etc. At least I gave them fair warning. And thus, minimized regret/risk for me. More actual trust.
Some readers will say: “You’re way too protected, dude.” Definitely. And, after you get devastated a few (dozen) times in many different aspects of life, you come talk to me and show me what you got. Risk exists for a reason, because shit really does happen. Trust is an ultra-rare mega-bonus blessing. I hope we all get a sliver of the real deal in each of our lives. BONUS if you did/do/will. It’s pretty sweet…trust me….
Thx Alex for your time and feedback.
Hey Perry, it is just fantastic that you are doing this work my friend. Being inside of the inquiry is the most powerful place to be, and you will emerge a better man.
Here’s a few thoughts for you…
First, when I said, “trust the woman,” I meant, trust her to be able to handle her own life. Trust that even if you hurt her, if you stuck with the truth, that she’ll recover from the heartbreak and learn something important about listening to what a man tells her about his state of commitment. She’ll be a stronger and more capable woman in her next relationship. Negative emotions don’t always need to be avoided.
Second, in terms of your own trust issues, both 1 & 2 are always true.
If you want humans to be perfectly “reliable” then you are setting yourself up for disappointment. It’s worth remembering that you have never, at any point in your life, been 100% reliable. Only machines can do that, and they are no fun to cuddle with.
I trust my friends and my wife 100% because I’m not expecting them to be perfect. I’m trusting them to be themselves. I’m trusting them to be human and fallible, and to do their best in the service of love while balancing the craziness of being a human.
It’s silly to trust a woman to always do what she says. No human his capable of that 100% of the time, and you will only be setting yourself up for misery.
But you can trust a woman to be a woman. You can trust her to be human. You can trust her to be vulnerable and fallible, and frequently noble, and loving, and sometimes hateful and angry, and you can trust her do things she’s proud of and things she regrets…
Just like you.
It’s okay to have the highest expectations of someone only if you are a jedi at forgiveness. Otherwise you are offering nothing but “conditional” love, and those conditions will never be met by a human.
If you want to love a woman, love her for the truth of her humanity, not for your fantasy of her perfection.
Yes, I did benefit from reading your words. It’s eggggxactkly my situation as well. Got the thing down to a beautiful for ‘me and her’ science…. but now she expects the smooth follow through that will make it all worthwhile for her.. engagement , plans to live to old age, her partner for life and a great handyman around the house.
Then I said, maybe this is a fluke ? Maybe she’s just needy or whatever?
So I try it all over again with a different woman and lo and behold !!! Same exact expectations :•)
So why would I learn to do this??
I forget the reason 🙁
Thanks everyone for your words , …. each has good points and I see my experiences still come up the same, regardless .
Fascinating , wonderful Life Journey it most certainly is :•)
Thank you Mr. Moderator for your blog.
Alex, shouldn’t it be up to the other men to step up rather than those of us who are great lovers, to downplay our natural skills – both mentally and physically? I know I’d feel like I was compromising myself and not honouring her in the way she deserves if I was to offer up less than I am. Just a thought.
Hey Mark, please see Rosie’s comment on this thread… In this video I am essentially agreeing with your point, and that I believe that there is a way to “be the best she’s experienced,” and open her to deep levels of surrender to pleasure and intimacy… while also honoring her and helping her to integrate it forward as a part of the loving act of sharing this experience with her…
But, as Rosie put it, there is also the possibility of being so fascinated and infatuated with your power to give women these experiences that it can become emotionally damaging “target practice.”
I don’t think you have to hold back… but you do need to deeply meditate upon how you relate to other humans and make yourself a force for good in their lives.
Obviously this starts to sounds very much like advocating “co-dependent behavior,” and I could have a legion of folks who went through years of psychotherapy to UNWIRE exactly that kind of thinking from their minds trying to run me out of town with pitchforks and torches…
But I stand by it. I believe that we can all live happier, better lives by committing to be more loving, even with strangers, and certainly with our intimate partners, even if they are “just casual”.
I’m more inclined to agree with perry’s earlier comment. some people just don’t have the time or resources to “satisfy women”. while every woman is not the same in my experience ( and clearly his) not every man has time to deal with all the issues women have and try to grow and rectify them at the same time. I’m a very goal oriented person and my position is if there is no balance in a relationship in which we help each other then quite frankly I don’t need you. The question still remains though what do we do if we do not find she is not worth it and we have already made the mistake of being irresponsible with our “abilities” and have gotten them infatuated with us?
Alex- Love the comment about women wanting to experience “joyful play” with their man. I think you really hit the nail on the head with that one. The next logical question to ask then is what kind of play “talk” do women want to experience in bed? I think of playing as more physical than verbal, but obviously the two definitely go together. So, what can we say in bed to trigger those same emotional desires?
Hey James, I think play is in your mental attitude.
When you’re skiing down a a steep hill that feels edgy for you, are you playing hard or working hard?
Well, it could go either way depending upon just how intimidating that hill is! Are you going, “fuck, fuck, fuck…” or “WOOO-HOOO!”?
For me play is usually physical too, and verbally, well, like I said, it’s a matter of state of mind and I don’t think it’s likely to succeed if you use another man’s example. Just having your GENUINE fun and pleasure in the moment is going to be works.
But, since you asked, my wife and I are in a little phase where give each other horrible nick-names. I don’t know why this is so funny for us, or if it will still be funny in 2 weeks, but it’s currently part of our verbal play.
I had a lover ( a woman) tell me one time that my trying to satisfy her is not my business, its the woman’s. That being if she cannot receive from herself the gift of sexual pleasure, nothing I do will satisfy her. She used to call it, a woman’s pleasure permission that she gifts to herself. Now, given that, with all the communication and freedom she would give herself, she felt the freedom to communicate honestly to me, what I needed to contribute to her towards her own selfish end.
There are some valid points here. Thank you for taking the time to answer beyond your video.
I have communicated in the past with some women that I was not interested in a relationship but in enjoying the moment. We both agreed and experienced each other for a few months. Both times I did this I broke their hearts. I have not done this since because i felt bad but at the same time thought that I was honest and agreed before hand.
I currently have another woman in my life that I am debating exploring but I think she would probably end up attached. I don’t see a long term commitment here either…… I too believe we can leave a short term relationship more enlighten about ourselves and have good memories. How should I approached the situation without hurting her? I much prefer connecting fully with a woman then to just masterbate in one. Should I just keep waiting until I find one I can see a future with or should I enjoy every moment of my life. I have been holding back for a while now. Other women’s point of views are welcome as well! Thank you!
Disregard my question because I have just reread your response to Rosie’s comment and you have already answered me….. thx
Thank you Alex for dedicating all your effort to take knowing ourselves and our relationships to the next level! Your advices and your program came to me at the right time of my life, and I’m very thankful for you, it was well worth the investment.
Rosie, I totally agree with you, men should not start intimate relationships with the explicit short term outcome in mind. (“I’m just basking in you for short term, and then I jump on to the next flower when I catch her scent”).
I understand where we men are coming from with this attitude: as a man with strong sexual drive, it is physically painful for me to see a closed-in woman, who does not have her sexuality expanded to her fullest. (It is visibly very obvious whether a woman has a good sex life, or she is sexually frustrated or neglected.) I want every woman to be the goddess, to be at the fullest of her potential. And I truly mean to lift women up, to facilitate in allowing her to trust herself that she is complete, she is powerful and she will always be the woman I respect, I admire and I support her power. Whether it’s through a smile, or more, it makes me content to see women be who they want to be. I think this is true for all men, but most of us are covered under many layers of indoctrination (deeply ingrained in our culture) that inhibit and misdirect both our sexuality and our attitude towards relationships. Thus, most men are stuck in that phase that they want to have sex with any pretty woman, and we beat ourselves up when we fail to achieve it (I have a short penis, I do not have an expensive car, I do not have charisma, I am bald…) All of these are but excuses, and our own insecurities not just about ourselves but also about our concept of relationships. Unfortunately the prevalent (and almost exclusive) method to evolve, is to go through failing relationships.
Perhaps the most poisonous element in our indoctrination is the fixed idea that we have to find our soulmate and live happily ever after until we die. Also, when we meet her (or him) we become castrated and inert to the rest of the world. However, we cannot control our subconscious minds, and once you shut down the rest of the world, you also shut down your loved one. Or, suffer if you do not find your soulmate. So, by default we are all stuck in failure mode unless the next to impossible happens.
I had the fortune to know a magnificent woman, who told me that all men have broken penises, all of us have issues with our manhood. At the same time women have issues with their feminine nature: it has been hurt so many times that they are afraid to show who they are. So, as men it’s our task to bring back women to their feminine nature. Once they reach that, and regain their confidence, they become all-powerful. Women are strong, actually emotionally much stronger than any man! Part of this strength is their readiness to start a relationship with a deep trust that they will support the man, be there for him, to transform the scared and insecure boy to a man. We, men, superficially crave all sorts of sexual encounters because we are uncertain of our sexuality, and we have no idea what it means to be a real man. We want to prove that hey, I’m one in a million, my penis is not broken, I have pollinated all those women others just dream about! I am the alpha male, therefore I have reached my full potential.
This fantastic woman also told me that once I have been with one woman, I have been with all women. If I did not find what I was looking for in her, I will not find it in another. Sexuality is the tool to bring out the Feminine and the Masculine in us. However, we both need to be clear on this point. Sexuality creates tremendous energy, tremendous potential, and people usually waste it: men squander it to chase after other women, and women waste it in trying to chain the (unsuitable) men to themselves.
A relationship is much more than sexuality. It’s also what we want in life: our goals, interests, hobbies, talents, career, relatives. Ultimately, these aspects are the ones that will make or break a relationship. That’s why it is absurd for men to start any encounter with a woman with the explicit intention of “we just fuck for a few weeks”. My fellow man, are our expectations that low? Or are we so afraid that we find what we are looking for, what we so desperately crave: the WOMAN? Our culture is full of myths, that women will chain you and hurt you once we give ourselves fully to her. This is pure nonsense! Once you give yourself fully to a woman, then she will transform you into a real man. And in turn, you will help her blossom into a self-realized and powerful woman.
You will have challenges along the road, and if both of you are clear on your path, then sexual insecurity will not be an issue. (He might leave me for another woman who has a perfect set of tits, or she might run away with a man who has twice as long penis as I have). If you have a real relationship, then both of you will use the opportunities “to eat at the restaurant” to learn something new, and bring your sexuality to the next level.
My own experience, for all the men out there: have trust in yourself! Even after many decades of insecurity, negative experiences and let-downs and self-doubt there is a road up. When you hit rock bottom, you can only go up! Question is: Are you ready? Can you commit to leaving your present situation of feeling sorry for yourself?
For all the women: have trust in yourself, and in life! If he is the man for you, he will stay with you. The two of you will have to work things out. Find out what his goals are in life, where he wants to get in life, and if it does not agree with your goals, then let him go!
And never ever feel insecure about it! If he raised your sexuality to the next level, then there’s nobody who can take that away from you. (Only you.)
You have found one who could bring out the woman in you, you will find another, but one who goes where you want to go!
In life, we go to school – elementary, high, college, etc. if you happen to share a brief period that opens up your sexuality, and it’s over, then you have graduated from the high school of life. Don’t feel ashamed, do not close yourself down. You have found your feminine (or masculine) side, and now you are ready to plan and live out additional aspects of your life.
Women, you are much stronger than men! Never for a second think that you will be hurt in a failed relationship. I’m 42, and I have seen many of my friends break up. In every single case the women who were left have recovered! And they had full recoveries and lead full and happy lives. The men however – most men who loose the love of their life became a husk, and none of my friends found happiness after their love broke up their relationship.
Women, You are strong enough to bear a child! You have incredible emotional strength and reserves you do not yet know of. Have faith in yourself, soon you will be even stronger than before, and the right kind of man will come to your life – one who is not needy, The one who will freely give and receive. Just remember – you don’t need a man. You want a man!