I’ve posted videos on how to get more oral sex… but what if you have a partner that doesn’t like to RECEIVE oral sex?
It’s more common than you may think, and I get quite a few emails from men and women who say, “help! My lover doesn’t like me to go down on them!”
Here you go:
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Alex, I just love your videos. All are greatly stated. As far as oral sex, I love to receive it, and be the giver of such. As an old fashioned 61 year old, am a swallow gal, and have always been so. I believe men really are turned on by this. Save the shooting all over the place for the porn films. I have not had many partners, but the ones I have had, have really had great blow jobs, and delivered great oral as well. I can not imagine any man not wanting this, but do see how women can not like it. I just know both are wonderful, and would love to do either for hours. Thank you.
Alex: Since the first time I ever gave oral sex to a man…it has (almost) been my
favorite thing to do…When i give oral sex, it is as good for me (or better) than for
the man!!!
I can have 4 or 5 hard orgasms myself while doing it and I have to be very careful
not to bite down…I have never found a man who didn’t love it.
Funny story: One time long ago, I was having sex with an older man, maybe 70
and he was in a trance I think until he came and when he did, he SCREAMED…
I live upstairs and thought maybe my neighbor would call the cops, but she didn’t.
I also thought I had killed him, i am a nurse, so i took his vitals and he was find…
Needless to say, he fell right to sleep like a baby and slept very soundly all night…
It was only a one night thing, and he stopped off to see me while on a long trip…so he was
gone the next day…but it was really a great night while it lasted. june
Is that Hawaii or the Carib?
Hey Steve, it’s the Caribbean. My wife and I currently split time between NYC and the north shore of the Dominican Republic where there is little enclave of expatriates from all over the world. I often think that I must have been a very great saint in my last life.
Alex,
Any tips for a guy who does like blowjobs but can’t cum from them?
hey Thom, 2 things I’d recommend:
1) Stop focusing on the “problem” (you can’t cum from them) and focus on the “opportunity” (you like them!). Enjoy the pleasure part at the level of pleasure. Enjoy the part you like, and focus deeply on that without the silly distraction of worrying about whether or not you cum. When you stop thinking about whether or not there is a problem with being able ejaculate in this situation, you can get MUCH more fully present with the present that you are being given! See just how deeply you can tune into the sensation, the connection, the surrender, the acceptance.
You might discover you spontaneously ejaculate! But don’t make that the goal. Make joy and pleasure and erotic juiciness alone be your goal. You will find that if you do, neither she nor you will miss the cum.
2) The “problem” is most likely one of position and hip movement. Hip movement and deep thrusting is how we are genetically wired to ejaculate because the object of the game is to get it deep into her vagina and get her pregnant. Nature did not wire us to ejaculate into anyone’s mouth.
I’d experiment a bit with positions. The “easiest” for women is when you are lying on your back and she has all of the control. A bit more difficult is on her knees with you sitting, but now we just begin some potential emotional (and irrational) conversation in her head about not wanting to be too submissive. Most women will get off on it… but you know, nobody is actually in a relationship “most women”.
Next in line is her on her knees with you standing. Push her back against a wall and thrusting into her mouth and you’ve got a recipe for extreme dominance and submission, possible serious gagging, and almost certainly you’ll be able to cum. Likewise you can prop her head on pillows and straddle her face in bed and be able to thrust.
Now these positions will be a WILD turn on for many women (most? maybe.) But a LOT of women are going to find them threatening. She needs a TON OF TRUST in you to be that submissive and not feel like it’s degrading. Or… if she enjoys being a submissive, she may love the fantasy idea of it being degrading. These things do get complicated with us crazy humans!
Cheers Alex for your reply. Much appreciated.
Focusing on the what i like and being present is an on going learning curve for me. Can definitely feel resistance to me ‘surrendering’ to the experience.
I’d tried difference positions before and they did help but didn’t understand why. The first position is what i’m used to and you’re right she has all the control. When i changed up the mix and felt more dominance it was more pleasurable for me.