THE ALLMAN REPORT
More Of Your Top Questions Answered…
As promised last week, here’s some more answers
to some of the great questions that I received during
the survey:
* Best position for female orgasm…
* Older guys with younger girls…
* Super foods for a better sex life…
* Getting hard for the second round rally…
* Lasting Passion…
* Ladies: How To Talk To Your Man…
* How To Communicate That You’re Good In Bed…
Yep… it’s a long one… So let’s get started!
***QUESTION***
I would like to learn the best sex position for a
couple to make a orgasm of her woman?
>>>MY REPLY:
This is a big subject and the short and easy
answer is that every woman is different and you
are going to have to do some experimenting and
pay attention to how she responds.
Some women like it deep, some shallow with an
upward angle, some like positions that
psychologically turn them on…
But for this question, let’s look at the
position that works most often for most couples
who have trouble reaching the big O during
intercourse.
It’s called “CAT” which stands for “Coital
Alignment Technique” and the basic idea behind it
is that it creates extra clitoral stimulation
during love making. A lot of couples have reported
a lot of success with it, so it’s worth trying!
1. Guy on top like regular missionary
2. Guy scoots forward about 6 inches so that
the angle of thrust is sharply downward inside of
her.
3. Girl crosses her ankles over his thighs
and then slides them down as low as they will go
on his legs, keeping ankles crossed.
4. Both partners control the motion… start
with HER: Use a rocking motion to create a
squeezing/massaging pressure on the clitoris. Then
add HIM: thrusting with pelvis in and out allowing
her to set the rhythm.
Try it tonight! (And try not to wake up the
neighbors).
More Female Orgasm Techniques…
***QUESTION***
Helpful Foods and nutrion for a better sexual life…?
>>>MY COMMENTS:
What’s good for your body is good for your sex
life.
A strong libido is a sign of good health, and
people who are generally more physically fit have
sex more often and report greater sexual satisfaction.
Being more attractive to each other is
important, and getting into shape is a part of
that equation whether we want to admit it or not.
Plus… if you are man… fat cells secrete
estrogen which may lower your sexual performance,
and body fat is also bad for your circulatory
system which may lead to weaker erections.
There’s some minor clinical evidence that
L-arginine may enhance sex, and while the data
probably isn’t strong enough to go out and buy
supplements… you could eat fava beans once in a
while: they’re loaded with it.
Blueberries, an overall superfood, have several
compounds that are pro-sexual, and enhance
circulation. A triple win!
They taste better than fava beans too.
And, finally, in a huge study of coffee
drinkers, of the many differences found between
“regular” drinkers and “decaf”… Both male and
female coffee drinkers had sex more frequently.
Now while it is possible that coffee contains
some flavanoid compound that directly affects
sex drive, it’s more likely that a cup of joe
after dinner keeps you from saying, “Not tonight
honey, I’m too tired.”
***QUESTION***
My boyfriend is hung very well but is soft much of
the time during sex… He is in his mid 50s and I
early 40’s how can I ask him questions regarding
this because Im not just concerned with our sex
life but also his health… He is always affraid
that Im going to cheat with someone younger but we
cant talk about issues without arguing.
>>>MY REPLY:
Alex is NOT a doctor. And I do not give any
medical advice.
That said, circulatory system health strongly
effects the hardness that men can maintain, and
if he hasn’t had a physical in a while… it
would probably be a very good idea.
It sounds like your biggest problem is in
talking to each other, and that’s the thing I’d be
more worried about than his hardness.
Not sure why he has these trust issues… but
obviously he’s feeling insecure about his age, and
you guys need to work on that. Couples counseling
couldn’t hurt… and I’d recommend a lot of
positive reinforcement. How often do you tell him
that he’s the sexiest man ever?
Think about it. Men respond to flattery much
more than women because we didn’t grow up with
chicks chasing us around trying to get into our
pants with stupid lines and flattery. Even though
it might sound silly to you… we men dig it.
Okay… finally… assuming the doc gives him
a good check up… the thing that I teach that
could make a massive difference is male multiple
non-ejaculatory orgasm.
Men can learn to have significant pleasure
from sex without ejaculation… and yes, even full
orgasm. It takes time to learn, but one of the
powerful affects of this is that over time it
strongly increases both libido and the power of
erections… MUCH more so than just abstaining
for the same period of time.
I don’t know of any serious research in the
area, but I believe it probably causes an increase
in serum testosterone. (which will also cause
fat loss and muscle gain if he’s in the gym).
This is just a theory, but my own body seems to
reflect this.
There are a zillion books on Amazon.com on the
subject… but as far as I know (honestly), the
best and most successful teaching method for
learning non-ejaculatory orgasm is my own Command
& Control Program. Which also teaches how to
last longer in bed.
And while it was not my intention to promote my
stuff in this newsletter… it’s the same thing I’m
going to say to the question below…
***QUESTION***
most guys have trouble performing more than one
round. what should we do to fix that or speed up
the process. its kinda embarrassing waiting more
than an hour for round two
>>>MY REPLY:
Obviously one way to do it is with “vitamin V”…
but it is much healthier and more powerful if you
can learn how to orgasm without ejaculating.
As I said above… I’m not the only one who
teaches this. But I do believe that my step-by-
step method is by far the easiest way to learn and
my success rate in training men is higher than
anyone else’s that I’m personally aware of.
You can find my system here: How To Last Longer
In Bed
Or you can find a good book on tantric sexual
practices and see if you can learn it on your own.
***QUESTION***
Learn how to not lose womens’ passion in sex over
time (relationships)
>>>MY REPLY:
This is a subject that I am really passionate
about. I am a big believer in true love, and my
own parents have been together for 50 years and
they’re still hot for each other!
I think that couples today are just lazy and
have an over-developed sense of entitlement.
I have heard from so many men and women that
the attraction was fading so it must be that they
weren’t meant to be together.
Bullshit.
Keeping the attraction alive does not happen by
accident. It’s something you work for. And if
you do… well, the rewards are so intense that
it’s really hard to explain to those who don’t
“get it”.
There are many methods for keeping the attraction
and the passion hot… but the one that most
couples who naturally succeed at this use is
simply “positive reinforcement”.
When couples are madly in love they say a lot of
nice things about each other a lot of the time.
Saying things like, “I think you are the hottest
woman (or man) alive,” or “nobody has ever turned
me on the way you do,” feels great for both of you
when you’re in love… so you do it a lot.
But something else happens as a result of this…
First, your partner wants to live up to those
words and tends to want to keep that #1 rank…
so they work harder at staying fit and healthy and
take care in dressing and grooming in the way you
like…
Second… and this is far more powerful… there
is a psychological syndrome discovered by Robert
Cialdini called “Commitment and Consistency”, and
while I won’t go into the details here, it is one
of the most powerful and consistent psychological
forces that have been studied. The bottom line:
The more you say these things the more your
brain imprints itself to BELIEVE them… and it
becomes real.
I go into more detail on this and other
principles in my stupidly inexpensive Couples Guide
To Revolutionary Sex which EVERYONE should own.
Keep sex hot forever in relationship
***QUESTION***
hi my name is […] and i have a question my
boyfriend and i had so much passion and now there
is none we do the same things in bed how can i get
him to try new things?
>>>MY REPLY:
First of all… the loss of passion is about
much more than trying new things (see above).
In fact, not knowing how to get him to try new
things is a much bigger issue than actually DOING
new things. Obviously you two have some communication
problems.
But look, I understand. Men are very hard to
talk to about sexual issues. We get very insecure
very quickly if we feel like you are trying to tell
us that we’re not good at something… and when we get
insecure we get MEAN.
(Fellas reading this, please take note: We
are raised from childhood to fight back when
someone hurts us… take a breath before “fighting
back” when the hurt comes from your lover. Girls
don’t learn to play like that and they get HURT.
Be gentle with them).
Couples therapy is great for this. A neutral
3rd party goes a long way to keeping him from
getting too upset. And if you don’t wait until
the end of the session to bring it up, you’ll get
through it far enough by the end that he won’t still
be mad when you’re leaving.
By the way: I don’t think couple’s therapy is
likely to bring your passion back. But it’s a
great tool to take the first step of being able
to TALK about it.
This may take some courage on your part if you
want to save your relationship. Living without
passion would be a real shame. Life is too short.
The other thing you ought to consider is taking
the lead. What if you dressed up in some sexy
clothing and played out a fantasy for him?
This is a band-aid, not the solution… fantasies
get old too… but it will help you start the
conversation later.
Final tip: buy the book “Radical Honesty” by
Dr. Brad Blanton and read it TOGETHER.
This book will scare the crap out of you… but
it is super-powerful stuff. It could very well
save your relationship (or end it… so be CAREFUL).
***QUESTION***
How to effectively communicate to a woman that you
actually do have sexual talents that she’d enjoy
without sounding like every other guy that says the
same thing.
>>>MY REPLY:
Oh dear God! NO!
Look man… I am really trying to help you
here…
Other guys do NOT say the same thing. At least
not guys that are successful with women.
Women are NOT attracted to guys who go around
saying, “hey ladies, I’ve got a talented tongue
that will rock your world…”
In fact… they are repulsed by them. Those
guys end up with women that are truly drunk, truly
desperate, and usually both… or, more often, with
a woman that charges by the hour.
Forget about communicating your “sexual talents,”
and instead allow HER to communicate who she is
and what she offers so that you can decide if she
is someone who is worthy of your time, attention,
and… sure… your sexual talents too.
The mindset is quite different. Trying to
convince her that you have good qualities is
received by women as desperate and needy.
It’s like “accidentally” letting her see your
Mercedes keys. You’re just embarrassing yourself.
A famous salesman once said, “people LOVE to
buy stuff… but yet they HATE being sold to.”
Great quote… if anyone knows who said it,
please write in to me!
Anyway, this applies double to romance and
women. If she feels like you are trying to sell
your benefits to her… she’s going to think
you’re a creep.
So… what should you do instead?
Live an interesting life. Work on your self.
Be a man of passion. Cultivate confidence.
Women are attracted to confidence. Period.
Sexual confidence does not need to be discussed.
She’ll know.
Oh… and… even though I said I wasn’t going
to make any sales pitches in this newsletter, here
I go again:
My Sexual Mastery Program has an entire hour
entirely devoted to becoming sexually confident.
It’s some of my best work, and it will change
your life.
And… on that note…
Thank you so much for submitting your questions
and taking my survey.
I will be talking to you again soon about my
upcoming project. I want as much input from YOU,
my reader, as I can get during this process because
I’m creating it for you and for your life.
I am, as always, so honored to be a part of
your life’s journey. Isn’t the internet magic?
Your friend,
Alex
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